How to Deal With Jealousy (EP 05)

Podcast Episode 5 (Condensed)

Jealous people will do everything in their power to destroy a person, be that person, or get others to be against that person. Some people refuse to believe that a person can be envious of them. They like to think that no person could ever view them in such a way. So, they go through life doubting it and having false humility. In actuality, that type of denial and deception can be dangerous when you truly have a jealous or envious person on your hands. 

Now, don’t get me wrong. Don’t be oblivious and think that every single person you encounter is jealous of you. We know that is far from the truth. But, the bible tells us that we will know people by their fruit (Matthew 7:20). If a person is displaying jealous attributes, don’t live in denial about it just because you want to appear humble. Pray for discernment and God will reveal people’s true motives and character. People will show their true colors one way or another. It has nothing to do with humbleness.

I’ve had my fair share of people who I thought were my friends, meant well for me, or simply cared for me. I go into great details about some of the most difficult and disappointing encounters with fake friends, loved ones, co-workers, and more on my podcast. Click here to listen to episode 5 of my podcast on jealousy/envy. You may find that you can relate to some of my past experiences.

Growing up with a single parent, my mother went above and beyond to not only provide necessities but get us majority of what we wanted. Being raised in a small town revealed how small-minded people can be in that sense. I discuss my upbringings further on the episode as well. I remember having people in my corner who became upset with me when God blessed me with things, I accomplished a goal, or reached some sort of milestone. I didn’t understand their poor attitude and behavior towards me. Yet, when I suffered in an area of my life or experienced misfortune, those close to me were in good spirit. They had all the right comforting words and seemed to be filled with joy. Yet, nothing positive came from them or any support when good things happened to me. Those are clear signs of jealousy. We should never look at the next person and envy who or what we they have. 

James 3:16 says, “For where jealousy and selfish ambition exists, there will be disorder and every vile practice.” This scripture is so true and proves how dangerous jealousy is. It leads to chaos, violence, and evil behavior. For someone who has never experienced jealousy, it may shock you that a person who envies you will go as far as seek out mediums and engage in witchcraft to destroy you. Yes, they will dabble in divination all due to envy. That is a prime example of “vile practice”. We also know the bible warns against witchcraft and divination (Leviticus 19:31 & Galatians 5:19-20).

 People who are jealous can become angry at you as well. Proverbs 27:4 says, “Wrath is cruel, anger is overwhelming, but who can stand before jealousy?” Proverbs 6:34 says, “For jealousy makes a man furious, and he will not spare when he takes revenge.” It is vital to understand this scripture because when you’re dealing with a jealous person, you have to stay in prayer for them. A jealous person will seek vengeance against in various evil forms. Even if you haven’t wronged them in anyway. You could have simply shown them love and kindness. Yet, something shifted in their attitude towards you for no reason.

It is unfortunate that people will even go as far as become jealous because they don’t have what you have. Maybe you’re a person full of joy and a bitter person envies you because of it. They covet the light you carry. It could be your personality that brightens a room which makes people be  drawn to you. A jealous person could be upset that people love you the way they do. And of course, people can covet your friends, relationships, and material possessions. In this way, they constantly seek out ways to obtain everything you buy, imitate everything you do, and look exactly how you look. If it is a friend or relationship they covet, they may try to take that person from you or get them to turn against you because they’re so jealous that they want even your friendships that you have with others. 

A covetous spirit is a dangerous jealous spirit. Exodus 20:17 and James 4:2 talks about how we should not covet what other people have. It states in Exodus 20:17, “You must not covet your neighbor’s house, you must not covet your neighbor’s wife, male or female servant, ox or donkey, or anything else that belongs to your neighbor.” 

James 4:2 NLT explains what happens when a person has a covetous spirit, “You want what you don’t have, so you scheme and kill to get it. You are jealous of what others have, but you can’t get it, so you fight and wage war to take it away from them. Yet you don’t have what you want because you don’t ask God for it.” The ending of the scripture is so powerful to me. God is the same God to me who He is to you. What God does for one person, He can do for another. We can God ask for anything in His name. As long as it is in His will, He will do it. (John 14:14). What God has for you will be for you. He will not let any blessing with your name on it pass you by.

For someone dealing with it, jealousy and envy may seem hard to handle. But with God, nothing is too hard for Him. We should let Him fight our battles at all costs. He should be the one we lean on to deal with jealous people. When I think more about envy and stories from the bible, I am reminded of how some examples from the bible: Cain and Abel (Genesis 4), the prodigal son and his older brother (Luke 15), Joseph and his brothers (Genesis 37), Rachel and Leah (Genesis 29), the pharisees and Jesus (all throughout the new testament), and Saul and David (1 Samuel 16-31). I discuss these in detail on the podcast episode here. 

The reality is that jealous people should draw us to our knees in prayer. That envious person doesn’t need deliverance, healing, and prayer. Some people who lack a clear understanding of their own identity through Christ find themselves constantly coveting or jealous of who/what a person has. Just like David was deceived by Saul, neither can we be. The same heart that David had towards Saul is the one we must strive to have. I can say the same for Joseph and even Jesus. When we have the power to strike back or destroy a person who has tried to tear down our reputation, ministry, relationship, or friendship, we must turn the other cheek (Matthew 5:39). I can’t always attest that it what I did before getting my life right with God. Listen more about that here. But I can say that now I am renewed. God has changed from the inside out. I take my problems to the King and allow Him to handle it. So, how do you deal with a jealous and envious person? Pray for them.

I hope this blog has given your insight and clarity on jealous/envious people. Most importantly, I hope it has been a blessing to you. If you or someone you love are struggling with jealousy or envy (either from other people or from themselves), say this prayer:

Dear Lord, I repent right now for any time that I have ever coveted what someone else had. Lord, forgive me for anytime that I have grew envious or jealous of who or what someone else had. I thank you for all that you’ve blessed me with. I praise your Name for who you are and for how you love me in spite of my flaws. Give me the strength to deal with jealous people. Help me to not seek revenge on my enemies. Instead, draw me to prayer for them daily. I ask you to cover and protect me from the crown of my head to the soul of my feet. I bind every spirit of backlash, retaliation, witchcraft, and all other demonic forces sent against me in the name of Jesus. Send it back to the sender in the name of Jesus. I will live and not die. I am a child of God. No weapon formed against me shall prosper. I decree and declare that every blessing you have for me will not pass me by. I will reap the harvest of my labor. Your promises are yes and amen. Everything you desire for me is for my own good. I love you because you first loved me. I seal this prayer and call it so done in the name of Jesus. Amen. 

If you enjoyed this blog, head on over to episode 5 of my podcast, Wytinsea Speaks because you will not regret listening to an even more candid discussion on jealously and envy. See you next time! 

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