How to Deal with Rejection (EP10)

Podcast Episode 10 (Condensed)

Rejection isn’t a topic that makes anyone happy (I’m sure). For me, I’ve experienced rejection in several ways. A long time ago, rejection would make me feel defeated and belittled. Now, knowing all I know about the word of God, I am able to see rejection in a different light. We’ll discuss that more later.

But rejection is something that most of us will face in our lives. To be honest, I think we all will experience rejection at least once in our lives. I wish I could say I only experienced it once, but that isn’t the case for me. Maybe, that isn’t the case for you either. 

When rejection hits, it can bring several emotions. Rejection can make you feel embarrassed, ashamed, inferior, insecure, sad, or even upset. It all depends on the type of rejection you experience.

Have you ever put in for a job application and was rejected? Maybe you prayed, fasted, and did all you could, but somehow you get an email that the company “pursued other candidates”. That type of rejection can be painful.

What about applying for a mortgage loan to get a new home? You’ve prayed your way through the process the whole time and end up not qualifying for the mortgage loan. That type of rejection can make you feel so defeated and inferior. These are just surface level examples of rejection. Now, let’s go a little deeper.

Have you ever felt rejected or abandoned by a parent? That can lead to deep wounds of rejection. It can even affect your relationships with others later in life. But remember, Psalm 27:10 NLT. It states, “Even if my father and mother abandon me, the Lord will hold me close.” In other words, even if you feel rejected by your parents, God accepts you. 

What about being rejected by your family or other loved ones? Ever felt like an outcast or black sheep? That type of rejection can be tough to get through if you don’t find solace in God. Joseph is an example of someone who was rejected. Joseph was the black sheep of his family due to his gift of prophetic dreams. He was sold into slavery (read Genesis 37:2-36). 

Now, Jesus is the perfect example of someone who was considered an outcast far beyond His family. Mark 6:4 NLT states, “Then Jesus told them, “A prophet is honored everywhere except in his own hometown and among his relatives and his own family.” With Jesus being so mighty, anointed, and appointed for such a time, He was rejected in his hometown, community, family, and friends. This scripture should serve as a reminder when we’re experiencing rejection that even Jesus did too. And if Jesus could overcome rejection, so can we. John 1:11 ESV states, “He came to His own, and His own people did not receive Him.” Therefore, our very own people can reject us too and that’s ok. As long as we remember that God welcomes us with open arms. 

To further things, even the Pharisees rejected Jesus because of the light He carried. They refused to believe that Jesus was the Messiah (read John 12:37-43). Jesus walked in truth and that’s what they hated. They rejected Him also because of the good deeds He did in the land. They made a conscious effort to try to destroy Jesus (read Matthew 12:14, Matthew 21:46, Matthew 26:3-4, John 8:59, and John 10:30-31).

Sometimes, you don’t have to do anything wrong to a person for them to reject you. You can be a good person to them, pray for them, bless them, and even help them in time of need. Nevertheless, they may still choose to reject you. Isaiah 53:3 talks about how Jesus was despised and rejected. Therefore, don’t be burdened if you’re despised and rejected too. The good news is that when men reject us, God embraces us. We are precious in God’s eyesight. He loves us more than anything. 1 John 4:19 says, “We love because He first loved us.” John 3:16 says, “For God so loved the world, that he gave his only Son, that whoever believes in him should not perish but have eternal life.” So, although people reject us, God accepts us.

Now what about friendships? Friendships can experience rejection too. Job was rejected by His friends when he went through a season of loss and suffering. I encourage you to read Job 4:3-8 and Job 8:20. Job’s friends rejected him and accused him falsely (read Job 15:4 & Job 20:5). But in the end, God blessed Job double time. To top it off, Job had to pray for those same friends that rejected him (read Job 42:10-13).  

Think about Saul and David. Saul rejected David due to jealousy and envy (read 1 Samuel 18:8-9). David loved Saul as a friend, but Saul didn’t feel the same about him. God appointed David and Saul couldn’t stand it (read 1 Samuel 16:13). It led to Saul rejecting David and seeking to destroy him (read 1 Samuel 19:19 & 1 Samuel 22:23). 

Don’t forget about Peter. Peter was one of Jesus’s disciples. When the persecution for Jesus intensified, Peter denied knowing Jesus three times (read Luke 22:54-62). This was a huge form of rejection being that Peter walked with Jesus and was already warned about it. Jesus warned Peter in John 13:31-35 that he would deny knowing Jesus. Unfortunately, this came to pass. It was yet another example of how people rejected Jesus. The good news is that Peter repented. As for Judas, he was supposed to be Jesus’s friend and disciple. But he sold Jesus for 30 pieces of silver (read Matthew 26:14-16). He gave him the kiss of death which ultimately was his sign of rejection and betrayal for Jesus (read Matthew 26:48-49 & Mark 14:45).

With all those biblical examples of rejection, I can’t help but think of one of my many stories regarding friendship rejection. When I totally surrendered my life to God, everything changed for me. I had so many friends that were in my circle. There was never a boring moment with them. We took trips, we hung out on the weekends, and did so many adventurous things. I knew I was in for a good time with them. 

Only thing is, that our “fun” pushed me further into sin. Our “fun” included getting drunk, going to clubs, bar hopping, and so much more. The more I tried to get close to God, the more a wall blocked that from happening. When I expressed to my group of friends that I no longer wanted to get drunk and go out to clubs, I was instantly rejected. I knew it. I felt it. 

They didn’t understand how for so many years I lived that lifestyle with them and now I was pulling away from it. I wasn’t rejecting my friends; I was only rejecting the sinful activities we engaged in. I still loved them, but I just couldn’t do those same things again with them. I tried to introduce them to clean fun, but that was to no avail. They refused to compromise in any way with me, so they continued to invite me to the kickbacks, block parties, and clubs to see if I would revert. Getting drunk and clubbing used to be the essence of our friendship, and nothing could change that for them. They saw no point in having sober fun.

 So, I had to cut off all ties with them. It was at that moment that I had to reject their advances since they rejected the new change in my life. That was a painful journey for me, but I knew what it felt like to be rejected by friends after that tough season. 

Can you relate? If you can’t relate to rejection with friends, have you ever been rejected by a parent or even your family? What about a career advancement? Ever experienced rejection with any type of application (whether car, house, or job)? Rejection isn’t something easy to handle. But God gives us biblical examples and biblical encouragement on how to deal with rejection. That alone is the purest example of God’s love for His people. Jesus died so that we may have life more abundantly. Therefore, we cannot allow the sting of rejection to hold us back in life. 

One of the first steps in dealing with rejection is to pray to God. James 5:16 NLT tells us that, “the earnest prayer of a righteous person has great power and produces wonderful results”. Therefore, if you’re having a hard time handling rejection, pray to God about it. 1 Thessalonians 5:17 ESV tells us to “pray without ceasing”. Jeremiah 29:12 ESV says, “Then you will call upon me and come and pray to me, and I will hear you.” Thank you, Jesus for hearing our prayers. We don’t have to suffer in silence from rejection. Lord, you’ve given us the key on how to deal with it.

The next step in dealing with rejection is to rehearse scriptures that affirm who God says we are.

“I am fearfully and wonderfully made.” (read Psalm 139:13-14). 

“No matter who rejects me, God accepts me.” (read Romans 15:7). 

“I am chosen by God.” (read 1 Peter 2:9). 

“I am a child of God.” (read Galatians 5:7).

The third step involves fasting. Sometimes, you may have to fast for God to break the spirit of rejection off your life. Of course, we can’t fast to cease experiencing rejection. But we sure can fast to build our faith and to gain strength on how we respond to rejection. I encourage you to read scriptures that discuss fasting like, Nehemiah 1:4, Isaiah 58:6, Ezra 8:23, Joel 2:12, and Matthew 6:16-18. There are so many more in the bible as well.

I believe that by following these steps, you’ll be on the right journey to deal with rejection better. These tips do not guarantee immediate answers or instant results. It takes faith to believe and trust God with your wounds of rejection. Of course, if the wounds of rejection affect your daily life, seek a counselor or therapist. There is nothing wrong with having Jesus and a therapist. If you’re experiencing hurt from rejection, let me pray for you:

Dear Lord,

Thank you for giving me life. Thank you for sending your Son Jesus to die on the cross for my sins. Forgive me for all of my sins. Restore my soul. Renew my spirit. Break off every stronghold that is hindering my relationship with you. Break off the spirit of rejection from my mind, body, spirit, and soul. Sometimes rejection is your protection. So, I thank you anyhow, Lord. Help me to have confidence in you, Lord. Help me to walk with my head up because of the God I serve. Heal my mind of any thoughts that remind me of who or what rejected me. God, thank you for always accepting me regardless of who doesn’t. Touch my mind and give me Christ-like thoughts. I decree and declare that this prayer is sealed in the precious blood of Jesus. Amen.

It is my hope that you’ve found biblical tools on how to deal with rejection better from this blog. For a deeper dive on this topic and to learn more about my other experiences with rejection, listen to my podcast episode here. Know that you’re not alone. Know that God loves you. Always remember you are accepted by the King of Kings and Lord of Lords. Until next time with, Wytinsea Writes

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