Loving Difficult People ( EP04)

Podcast Episode 4 (Condensed)

Loving difficult people is easier said than done. Trust me, I know. I struggled with it for over a decade (which I discuss in depth on my podcast episode. See the link below). It’s hard to do when you feel as though people are hating on you, plotting against you, backstabbing/gossiping about you, coveting who or what you have, and in secret competition.

But what I will say is that we find our strength through God by loving difficult people. In first Samuel chapters 16-31, we learn of this one-sided beef between Saul and David. Saul has beef with David because God appointed him to be king and rejected him due to his disobedience. Instead of repenting to God, turning away from his wickedness, and learning from his mistake, Saul chose to go after David. He spent so much time trying to destroy David that it was sad. He would have been better off becoming inspired by David, instead of growing intimidated (that’s the problem in our society today). 

But here’s the thing, David learned to love a difficult person like Saul. Seeking vengeance would serve him no justice because Exodus 14:14 tells us that the “Lord will fight for us”. That is what we have to remember when we struggle with loving difficult people or enemies. 

Luke 6:27-36 can be a tough pill to swallow after reading it. I encourage you to study it like I did. In sum, only loving people that love you, helping people that help you, and doing good to those who do good to you, will not profit you anything in the kingdom of God. Why? Because that is the easy part in life! The hard part comes in loving your enemies. 

1 Peter 4:8 tells us that, “Love covers a multitude of sin”. When we forgive those who hurt us, discard us, hate us, or even use us, we’re displaying the love that God has for us.

Romans 5:8 ESV reminds us that, “God showed loved for us in that while we were still sinners, Christ died for us.” At one time, we were in sin and difficult to love, but God still chose to love us in spite of it. When he sent Jesus to die for us, it covered a multitude of sin and proved God’s love for us.

For a more in-depth analysis and candid discussion on my previous struggles with loving difficult people, click here to listen to the episode on my podcast. You won’t regret it. 

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